Oh that. Right. About that…
If you recall, after spending a few months on the farm last summer working on clearing land with my Dad, Scott and I set the date for August 6th, 2016.
And then a month or so later, backed out.
We had decided on an intimate-vintage-chic-summer-pond wedding. It was convenient; as a teacher I would be on summer break, and doing it at home on my childhood farm ensured a sentimental approach.
We booked a photographer, started creating our mood boards on Pinterest, and even looked into honeymoons in August.
And then somewhere in mid-September, the idea of the wedding became a hassle, a point of contention, and plain NO FUN to talk about. Thrown back into our city-life and the stress of a new school year, we stopped discussing plans. And then we realized that the reason we weren’t having fun was that the wedding was becoming something that didn’t represent who we are as a couple – AT ALL.
Scott and I are spontaneous, quirky, and couldn’t imagine checking off all the boxes of a traditional wedding. We never wanted to get married in the summer, but since it was easy and made sense, we forged ahead.
Instead of falling victim to the show of the wedding, we decided to take a step back and take time to think about what we truly want to start our marriage. Who knows? Beach in the OBX, saying “I do” at 11:59 on New Year’s Eve, or spontaneous nuptials at a random BBQ have all been considered. Whatever we do, we want it to be less about the tradition of a wedding, and ten times more about the importance of our marriage.
So, for now, we have no clue about when or where the wedding will be. And we love it that way. Being engaged to this guy has been the best time of my life, and someday getting married will be a perfect way to celebrate having found my forever love. In the meantime, we’re going to keep dating and running around this incredible city – eating, drinking, laughing.
How did you decide to plan your wedding? What choices helped create the occasion for you?